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Note your personal reference points that assist you in consciously experiencing
your emotions. How do you feel in your body when these emotions are present?
2. How do you feel when you are not experiencing your emotions?
3. What are some of the ways that you know for sure that you are experiencing your feelings?
They key is what we want to do now. Do we want to blame others and feel victimized, or do we want to progress with our lives? If we want to go forward, do we want the easiest and fastest way or a slower and more tedious route? All roads eventually lead to the same place, so our route of travel is a personal choice.
the Fast or the Slow Lane
If you select the slow lane, notice the areas in which you resist your emotions. Notice that you would rather talk about and analyze your feelings than experience them. Note that you tend to judge your emotions and label them as good or bad. You want to know why things are as they are and why you feel as you do, because you want someone or something to blame rather than moving forward with you life.
Be aware that you are hanging out in the desert rather than walking through it so that you can enjoy the oasis. If you enjoy stifling heat and you have brought along plenty of water, stay in your intellect and continue to avoid your feelings. Try to figure out why things are as they are. Blame others for your characteristics or the situations in your life.
you want to munch on dates and sip cool drinks in a hammock underneath a palm
tree or swim in the pool, try the fast lane and see if you like it. You can always
change lanes again.
Reflection Exercise #4
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