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In the last section, we talked about physical abuse and the aftermath the abuse had on Marian, but as you know, not all victims of abuse have been physically battered.
In this section, let’s take a look at verbal abuse and the effects it has on battered women. Have you found, like I have, that verbal and mental abuse is damaging in an equal but different way than physical abuse? Have you also found that clients who feel they’re unlovable or not worthy of love attract, if not physically abusive relationships, verbally abusive relationships?
Sandy, a 31 year old physical therapist, has been verbally abused by her husband, James, for many years. When she came into my office, she said, “It started out innocently enough. He told me I had beautiful eyes and asked why I didn’t wear a little eye shadow. But then it got worse. He would yell at me for everything, call me names, and make false accusations. He even contradicted himself, calling me ‘bossy’ in one sentence and ‘a wimp' in the next. I was so wound up I couldn't sleep.”
Loss of Autonomy
Disintegration of Self-Image
Take a moment to reflect on your "Sandy" client who is in a verbally abusive relationship. In your next session, would it be beneficial to discuss possible Loss of Emotional Autonomy and possible Disintegration of Self-Image which signify verbal abuse?
Questions to Identify Verbal Abuse
I have found verbally abused women like Sandy, who feel they are unlovable or do not deserve love may answer "no" to these questions initially. However, when I explained to Sandy the concept of self-talk and asked her to increase her awareness of her thought process, she became aware of how James's verbal abuse affected her emotional autonomy and a disintegration of her self-image.
This CD entitled "I'm Unlovable" Changing your Client's Lifetraps has covered Internal vs. External Controls, Four Step Depersonalization, Deliberately Opposing and RET, Three-Tiered Affirmations, Power-Imbalance Questions, Closure Metaphors, Four R's of Regaining Self-Esteem, Emotional Roller Coasters, "Taking Back" Lost Needs, and Two Verbal Abuse Signifiers.
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