Healthcare Training Institute - Quality Education since 1979
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Deck the halls, peace on earth, good will
to men, joy to the world. How often do you hear these phrases repeated at holiday
times? But how joyous are the holidays truly for you?
Think for a moment, and this may be a stretch, and I'll repeat this statement twice. "Your mind is already happy until you make it otherwise." I'll repeat this. "Your mind is already happy until you make it otherwise."
Think about this statement..."There is nothing neither good nor bad, but your thinking makes it so." What does that mean to you at the end of the holiday season? Are you confused? Think of an incident with a relative, friend, acquaintance, work associate over this past holiday season that had a less than desirable outcome. Is it your thoughts or evaluation of the circumstance that actually made it good or bad? Isn't it a relief that it is your perception of a situation or in short the way your thinking coats your world, so to speak, which creates your reality?
have never thought about this before, the idea that your perception creates
your reality may come as quite a shock to you. However, it could be a source
of relief because as you are well aware, you have little control over much that
occurred in this past holiday season, yet you have complete control over your
But it is not quite that simple, is it? I have concluded the key to happiness is not to merely fill your mind with good or positive thoughts. However, the key is to look at your thinking which coats your reality.
Here's something else you may have never thought of your world, holidays included, has surprisingly little effect on your happiness until you coat your world with your thoughts and give meaning and assign a meaning to what happens to you.
Instead of getting angry at yourself that you didn't opt for the promotion in another city and could be making more money now to buy that electric bed, what if your thoughts were, "She was perfectly happy with the Poinsettia. Actually, she never even mentioned that she even wanted an electric bed in the first place. That was my idea."
Take a minute to turn the CD player off and think of how your perceptions or self-talk regarding an event this past holiday season has coated your world. How could you see the situation differently or change your perspective?
an idea is thought, that idea becomes part of your perception and thus becomes
part of your reality. In a sense that thought becomes the eyes through which you
see the world. That idea determines what you choose to notice and what you choose
to overlook. Your thought itself, and not its object, provides comfort. Your thoughts
give support. Your thoughts give you hope. Your thoughts give you self confidence.
Most of us give lip service to the thought that happiness is a state of mind. By lip service I mean we say it, we understand it, but we do not practice it. So why do most of us fail so thoroughly to change our state of mind and be happy? Could it have something to do with criticism? Is criticism of yourself and other keeping you from being happy?
♦ Technique: Criticism Analysis
In this section, we discussed how your perception of the world defines joy and happiness in your life, as well as a "Criticism Analysis" exercise and venting strategies.
The next section will discuss with "Is Forgiving possible?"