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In the last section, we talked about how according to Tina Tessina author of “The Real 13th Step” the 12 steps can actually impede autonomy.
In this section, we will discuss addictions to the 12 step program.
Have you found, like I, that often addicts participating in 12-step programs will develop an addiction to the program for the following five reasons? Lack of healthy replacement habits, lack of information about functional living, lack of models for healthy relationships, replication of dysfunctional family patterns, and dependency on the group. Sound interesting? Let’s look at some of these reasons more closely as you listen to David’s story.
David, age 25 addicted to cocaine, was getting bored now that he had started recovery. He stated, “The group helped me to stop spending my time using cocaine, but it didn’t help me figure out what to do with all the free time I had.” An old friend offered to take David to a casino, and he accepted.
The excitement gave David a psychological high, and there was always plenty of alcohol to drink. As you may have guessed, soon David found himself going to the casino every night and drinking heavily in the time he wasn’t spending at his group. Sound like a relapsing client of yours?
♦ Reason #1- Replacing Habits
♦ Reason #2 - Lack of Information on Functional Living
Addicts like David may have little opportunity to learn competent everyday living skills, such as: how to think clearly and rationally, evaluate people and situations, and make choices; how to create a sense of purpose in their lives free of addiction; how to handle change and normal upsets of life; how to create their own ethics and guidelines for living; and how to learn to trust themselves and make commitments they can keep. For David, his inability to evaluate people and situations led him to begin a new addiction to gambling.
We can analyze the other three reasons for addicts developing an addiction to the program from Maggie’s experience.
For Maggie, age 54 addicted to alcohol since her divorce at age 33, it seemed that recovery was going really well. Maggie’s sponsor, Georgia, was very supportive in helping her to overcome her addiction to alcohol. At first she had success, but she began to rely on the program heavily. After a couple of months, Maggie’s old rage at her abusive mother surfaced and she yelled at Georgia after she suggested Maggie lead a meeting.
♦ Reason #3 - Lack of Models for Healthy Relationships
Maggie was not aware of the re-enactment, because these feelings were so familiar through her relationship with her mother. She stated, “I just felt like Georgia was controlling me, the same way my mom used to. When I didn’t do what Mom said, she used to hit me. I guess a part of me was afraid that Georgia would end up doing that, too.” Addicts like Maggie will usually choose the familiar over the healthy, no matter how painful the familiar
♦ Reason #5 - Dependency on the Group
Again, we can look at Maggie’s case. Once she entered recovery by stopping her addiction, Maggie wanted to keep her group’s approval by remaining in recovery. As you can see, the group was some what functioning as a substitute addiction.
♦ 'Coping with Fear' Exercise
David wrote, “I’m afraid that I will mess up something at work because I’m too nervous to do the job sober. I’m afraid that the boss will yell at me or fire me for a mistake I make because I’m nervous. I’m afraid I might relapse if I lose my job.” Maggie wrote, “I’m afraid that if I leave the group, I will start drinking again. I’m afraid that the group won’t support me if I leave. I’m afraid that I will have no friends if I leave the group.”
Once each had listed their fears,
I explained to them ways to manage that fear. I stated:
Do you have a client like David or Maggie who is simply replacing one addiction with another or is becoming addicted to the program? Would he or she benefit from doing the “Coping with Fear” exercise?
In this section, we have discussed the reasons that
addicts can become addicted to the program. The five reasons that
addicts become addicted to the program are lack of healthy replacement
habits, lack of information about functional living, lack of models
for healthy relationships, replication of dysfunctional family
patterns, and dependency on the group. We also talked about the
“Coping with Fear” exercise. Would it be beneficial
to plaly this section in your next session for a client who feels
they are ready to branch out from the 12 step program.