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of Contents The next step in increasing awareness of verbal abuse, after exploring the two questions of instant replay syndrome and guilt trips, is to increase Sandras awareness of what I term, "The 3 Tactics that Create a Power Imbalance" in the relationship. At some level, males know their partners feel that they are their partners Great Catch. The Great Catch uses the resulting power imbalance for purposes of control. See
if any of your clients have experienced any of these three tactics in which the
Great Catch successfully maintains control over his partner in the
relationship. ♦ Tactic #1: Can't-You-Take-a-Joke. ♦ Tactic #2: Betrayal-of-a-Confidence. ♦ Tactic #3: Breaking-an-Agreement In addition to the Can't-You-Take-a-Joke and Betrayal-of-a-Confidence tactics, “Great Catch” control tactic #3, is Breaking-an-Agreement. Here’s how it works. Marcy stated, "Ron makes promises and then breaks them. He’ll go on and on about taking the girls to the park. When the day comes he has forgotten all about it, and comes home from work late. He’ll say, ‘what else could I do? I had to work late. You are always whining that we don’t have enough money aren’t you?’" Also, Marcy feels Ron never takes time to talk. “Even when he says we’ll talk after dinner. Then, when I ask him how his day was or I tell him I’ve had a bad day, he just rolls his eyes and walks away. Even when he had promised we will talk.” As you know being physically and emotionally unavailable is an extremely powerful tool to create power inequity in a relationship. Thus, the tactic of Breaking-an-Agreement is a frequently used tool that facilitates being physically, as well as emotionally, unavailable. Oftentimes, the Great Catch breaks his agreements wanting to be judged by his intentions rather than by his actions. In other words, I intended to take the girls to the park, but I had to work late. I intended to talk after dinner, but I was too tired. Think of a client you are currently treating. Does her Great Catch use the: Can't-You-Take-a-Joke tactic, Betrayal-of-a-Confidence tactic, Breaking-an-Agreement tactic, or a combination of these three as a means to create a power imbalance and maintain a "One Up" status? ♦ National Violence Against Women Survey - Cascardi, M., Chesin, M., & Kammen, M. (Jul 2018). Personality Correlates of Intimate Partner Violence Subtypes: A Latent Class Analysis. Aggressive Behavior, 44(4), 348-361. In
the next section... we will talk about how these three tactics can lead to depression
and a killing of the spirit, so to speak. Eterović, Marija. (Apr 09, 2020). Recognizing the role of defensive processes in empirical assessment of shame. Psychoanalytic Psychology, No Pagination Specified. Harrington, A. G., Overall, N. C., & Cross, E. J. (2020). Masculine gender role stress, low relationship power, and aggression toward intimate partners. Psychology of Men & Masculinities. Advance online publication. Platt, Melissa G., Freyd, Jennifer J. (Jul 2015). Betray my trust, shame on me: Shame, dissociation, fear, and betrayal trauma. Psychological Trauma: Theory, Research, Practice, and Policy, 7(4), 398-404. QUESTION
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