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Appendix B - Abusers Most Controlling and Abusive Tactics
abuse: twising arms, tripping, biting, pushing, shoving, hitting, slapping,
choking, pulling hair, punching, kicking grabbing, using a weapon against her,
beating her, throwing her down.
Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, where she goes.
Abuse: Putting her down or making her feel bad about herself, calling her
names. Making her think she's crazy. Mind games.
Abuse: Trying to keep her from getting or keeping a job. Making her ask for
money, giving her an allowance, taking money from her.
Putting her in fear by; using looks, actions, gestures, loud voice, smashing things,
destroying her property.
Making her do sexual things against her will. Physically attacking the sexual
parts of her body. Treating her like a sex object.
Male Priviledge: Treating her like a servant. making all the "big"
decisions. Acting like the "master of the castle."
Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her emotionally. Threaten
to take the children, commit suicide, report her to welfare.
Children: Making her feel guilty about the children, using the children to
give the message, using visitation as a way to harass her.
P. Lynn, Treating Men Who Batter, Springer Publishing Company, NY, NY,