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On the last track, we discussed some ways to use play therapy when dealing with repetitive rituals, control, and regressive behavior; as well as looked at when setting boundaries in play therapy would be beneficial.
On this track, we will examine the Family Stance and the Family Trance. As well as how the two techniques of the "Other Family" exercise and the "Mottos" exercise can be used to bring awareness of where the guilt associated with the abuse comes from.
In helping clients to understand that the feelings associated with the sexual abuse was not their fault, I found Foster's concept of a family stance and Bradshaw's concept of a family trance to be extremely beneficial.
Terry, age 12 had been molested at the age of 9 while in detention by her teacher and was referred to me by her counselor at school. During one particular session, I asked Terry to describe some values of her family. Terry stated, "My mom and dad really like to look good to the neighbors and to the rest of my family. I guess our motto is 'Keep it in the family". When I told them about the abuse, they told me there was nothing I could do about it because everyone would think I was bad."
Clearly, Terry's family was suffering from a destructive family stance characterized by valuing appearance over their daughter's emotional health. By making Terry aware of the effect of her family's destructive life stance, this reinforced the belief that she was not to blame for her sexual abuse.
To characterize a client's family stance, familial attitudes, mottos, and behaviors must all be taken into account. As you know, a family's attitude translates feelings into thoughts and beliefs. Terry's family valued appearance and pride above all. Feelings of shame and disgrace, like those that Terry's abuse had produced, were to be avoided at all cost.
Family mottos are sayings that sum up shared attitudes. Terry's family motto of "Keep it in the family" reflected their value in pride and appearance. Such a family experiencing shame might have thoughts such as, "Everybody is talking about us; we can't hold our heads up." Family behaviors are the outer result of these attitudes. Terry's family's behavior was to keep her from talking about the abuse with anybody outside the family in order to maintain the family's pride.
The Other Family Exercise
Terry described Amy's family as open and bold while her family was closed off. Think of your Terry. Would he or she benefit from the "Other Family" exercise? Later on in the track, I will describe a second technique, the "Mottos" exercise that is also useful recreating awareness about family attitudes.
The Family Trance
been prone to dismiss hurt feelings, rather than display them or talk about them.
Her parents unconsciously created and maintained their family trance by their
behavior toward each other and the children. When Terry felt compelled to break
the trance by talking openly about the abuse with her school counselor, she threatened
the status quo of silence.
Terry wrote, "Honor you father and mother", "Don't embarrass me", and "I don't want to talk about it." I then had Terry pick one and tell me a situation in which it was used and the kinds of feelings it invoked. Terry picked "Don't embarrass me" and related this story to me. "I think I was five and I was in a department store. I was crying. I wanted to go home. My mother kept tugging on my arm to pull me into an empty aisle. She was whispering to me 'Stop crying, you're embarrassing me. Don't embarrass me.' When I got older and remembered that incident, I felt ashamed for making my mom look bad."
I asked Terry, "How does this reflect one of your family's attitudes?" Terry responded, "It shows that they don't like negative attention." With the help of this and the "Other Family" exercise, Terry began to recognize how her family's attitudes and behaviors led to her feelings of guilt and that the abuse was her fault.
On this track, we discussed the Family Stance and the Family Trance. As well as how the two techniques of the "Other Family" exercise and the "Mottos" exercise can be used to bring awareness of where the guilt associated with the abuse comes from.
On the next track, we will examine four key factors involved in false memory generation and the influence therapy may have in fabricating of these false memories.
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